Blog – Page 8 – Debra Joy

How To Do Anything.

I use to believe there’s a right way of doing things and a wrong way. There are right ways to be and wrong ways. Right foods to eat, right thoughts to think, right beliefs to believe. And I mostly found myself getting it wrong. I’ve been a good student. I love to learn. The way…

Increase your Capacity for Joy

It was one of those days when I woke up feeling fantastic. Nothing in my body hurt, my energy was good. I was grateful for so much in my life. The sun was shining, it was a beautiful day. Dolphins greeted me on my beach walk. Then my husband got some great news about a…

Move from Certainty To Clarity

You want a life of passion, joy and peace, yet what you strive for so often is certainty. It’s not unusual to want things to be certain. It’s based on a belief that life can be under your control. “If I do A and B I will achieve C.” This kind of linear, cause-and-effect thinking…

It matters because it matters to You.

Have you ever made yourself thoroughly frustrated trying to convince someone about what really matters? In the early 90s I tried to explain to women, who really just wanted a flattering shade of lipstick and a good moisturizer, that slight rises in temperatures of the globe really mattered. I tried to advise parents to stay…

When Not to be True To Your Word

You’ve heard it said, “You’re only as good as your word.” Being true to your word is great … except when it isn’t. Now I’m all for doing what you say you’re going to do, making vows and commitments and sticking to them, even when the going gets tough. Being true to your word is…

How Much Is Enough?

Growing up I never got the concept of enough. As a toddler I’d stay up until the wee hours of the morning, out lasting many of the grown ups because I didn’t want to miss a thing. As a young adult I said YES to everything, was constantly over-booked, running from one project to the…

The Joy of Anger. Or why I disagree with the Dalai Lama.

Actually I’ve never met the Dalai Lama. I’m basing this only on what I’ve read. And perhaps I’m misinterpreting his words. Maybe if we sat down over a cup of tea or shots of tequila I’d discover that we’re saying the same thing about anger: That it’s just energy, and moving it and expressing it…

Emotions are meant to move.

If you joined The 30 Day Love Explosion you may be thinking that it’s all rainbows and happy faces in my world. If so, you don’t know me. More acurately – you don’t know all of me. Those who’ve worked with me privately, been on retreat, taken a class with me, or are part of…

The Secret of Slowing Down Time

Something wonderful just happened. I turned 50. All the time leading up to it people kept saying things like: “I can’t believe it. Where has the time gone? 50 already, how is that possible? It goes so fast. Life is flying by.” I knew what they were talking about. In my thirties I had a…

It’s never too late to Love.

Did you forget to drop a love bomb yesterday? Have you forgotten for several days? Hey, it happens. As Malcolm London says, “Even the richest man can never purchase yesterday”. You can’t get it back so let it go. All you have is today – this very moment. And there will never be a better…