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DEBRA OPENED UP MY EYES TO WHAT I REALLY WANTED OUT OF MY CAREER AND ULTIMATELY, MY LIFE AND FUTURE. SHE HELPED ME OVERCOME FEARS THAT PREVENTED ME FROM CONSIDERING OTHER POSSIBILITIES.
LESLEY BIDLAKE

What would your alternate life teach you?

A few weeks ago, at the LA Dance Collective, I tapped into my alternate life and set my inner Go-Go Girl free. She’s playful and fun. She twirls and whirls with her eyes closed. Flits from one partner to another, like a happy hummingbird. I recognized my alternative life a few years ago. One day I wondered what…

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Tune for a Tuesday Afternoon #3

Elections can be such polarizing events. I can easily get defensive of my position, sure of my rightness, and think you’re an idiot for your choice of candidates. Or I can open my heart and be vulnerable. I can feel that under my posturing and anger, there is fear. And it gets in the way…

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Tune for a Tuesday Afternoon #2

I’m learning things I haven’t wanted to learn. Back-end, technical stuff that doesn’t exactly turn my crank. But I want to share my new book with you, so I’m learning, I’m growing, and stumbling through. My desire to share with you is bigger than my resistance to technology, so I’m choosing to learn. I’m committed…

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Everything You Do is Selfish

Everything you do is Selfish. The sooner you accept that, the happier you’ll be. I don’t mean you’re some terrible a**hole, only thinking about yourself. I’d bet money that you’re a good person, hard working, and you do lots for others. But even the things you do “for others” come from a selfish motivation – you want to feel…

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Tune for a Tuesday afternoon.

  This song kept coming to mind as I walked a few miles on the sizzling sidewalk. It not quite 107 degrees today, but it feels like it could be. This song matches my pace today. Stay Cool. Enjoy. 107 Degrees. Citizen Cope. Share it with someone else who’s trying to beat the heat today!

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Waiting… as a Portal to Presence.

Everything was perfect. He arrived exactly when he said he would. He lifted her bike onto the roof of his car, and deftly secured it in place. They drove out of the city, the sun rising between apartments, above houses, then over the fields. An hour later they arrived. He unloaded the bikes and they were…

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This deadly sin might just save your soul.

Ever heard of the Seven Deadly Sins? Over the past few months I’ve noticed one of the these deadly sins showing up in my client calls, with some regularity. And you know what happens when you think of yourself as a sinner? Shame comes rushing in. Shame likes everything to look neat and tidy. It hates the messiness of…

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What’s better than having good boundaries?

 If you feel you’re getting the short end of the stick, doing more than you said you would, or your personal space is being invaded, you may think you need better boundaries. Think again. I’m not against boundaries. They’re a necessary step in development, so you don’t spend all your time in other people’s business where…

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Start Strong and Finish Strong.

So many things in your life are out of your control. The weather, the traffic, the sh*t that comes out of politicians mouths. If you get caught up in it all you could start to feel helpless. But here’s something I’ve learned from living in LA There’s always someone next to me in the coffee shop…

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How to Accelerate your Success

When I worked in venture capital, entrepreneurs would pitch me on their business. I’d determine if their product or service met our criteria, if there was a viable market for it, and most importantly, if i believed in the leader. Was this a person (or team) that could do the job, did we want them…

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